9 Life Lessons
In darker days, I did a corporate gig at a conference for this big company who made and and sold accounting software. In a bid, I presume, to inspire their salespeople to greater heights, they'd forked out 12 grand for an inspirational speaker who was this extreme sports guy who had had a couple of his limbs frozen off when he got stuck on a ledge on some mountain.
It was weird. Software salespeople, I think, need to hear from someone who has had a long, successful, and happy career in software sales, not from an overly optimistic ex-mountaineer. Some poor guy who had arrived in the morning hoping to learn more about sales techniques ended up going home worried about the blood flow to his extremities. It's not inspirational. It's confusing.
And if the mountain was meant to be a symbol of life's challenges and the loss of limbs a metaphor for sacrifice, the software guy's not gonna get it, is he? 'Cause he didn't do an arts degree, did he? He should have. Arts degrees are awesome, and they help you find meaning where there is none.
And let me assure you there is none. Don't go looking for it. Searching for meaning is like searching for a rhyme scheme in a cookbook.
You won't find it, and it'll bugger up your souffle. If you didn't like that metaphor, you won't like the rest of it. Point being, I'm not an inspirational speaker, I've never lost a limb on a mountainside, metaphorically or otherwise, and I'm certainly not here to give career advice 'cause, well, I've never really had what most would consider a job.
However, I have had large groups of people listening to what I say for quite a few years now, and it's given me an inflated sense of self-importance. So I will now, at the ripe old age of 37.9, bestow upon you nine life lessons. To echo, of course, the nine lessons of carols of the traditional Christmas service, which is also pretty obscure.
You might find some of this stuff inspiring. You will definitely find some of it boring, and you will definitely forget all of it within a week. And be warned, there will be lots of hokey similes and obscure aphorisms which start well but end up making no sense.
So listen up or you'll get lost, like a blind man clapping in a pharmacy trying to echolocate the contact lens fluid. That's looking for my old poetry teacher. Here we go. Ready?
One, you don't have to have a dream. Americans on talent shows always talk about their dreams. Fine if you have something you've always wanted to do, dreamed of, like in your heart, go for it.
After all, it's something to do with your time, chasing a dream, and if it's a big enough one, it'll take you most of your life to achieve, so by the time you get to it and are staring to the into the abyss of the meaninglessness of your achievement, you'll be almost dead, so it won't matter.
I never really had one of these dreams, and so I advocate passionate dedication to the pursuit of short-term goals. Be micro ambitious. Put your head down and work with pride on whatever is in front of you. You never know where you might end up.
Just be aware the next worthy pursuit will probably appear in your periphery, which is why you should be careful of long-term dreams. If you focus too far in front of you won't see the shiny thing out the corner of your eye. Right? Good. Advice, metaphor.
Look at me go. Two, don't seek happiness. Happiness is like an orgasm.
If you think about it too much, it goes away. Keep busy and aim to make someone else happy, and you might find you get some as a side effect. We didn't evolve to be constantly content.
Contented Homo erectus got eaten before passing on their genes. Three, remember it's all luck. You are lucky to be here.
You are incalculably incalculably lucky to be born and incredibly lucky to be brought up by a nice family that helped you get educated and encouraged you to go to uni. Or if you were born into a horrible family, that's unlucky, and you have my sympathy, but you are still lucky.
Lucky that you happen to be made of the sort of DNA that went on to make the sort of brain which when placed in a horrible childhood environment would make decisions that meant you ended up eventually graduating uni. Well done you for dragging yourself up by your shoelaces, but you were lucky. You didn't create the bit of you that dragged you up.
They're not even your shoelaces. I suppose I worked hard to achieve whatever dubious achievements I've achieved, but I didn't make the bit of me that works hard, and more than, any more than I made the bit of me that ate too many burgers instead of attending lectures when I was here at UWA.
Understanding that you can't truly take credit for your successes, nor truly blame others for their failures, will humble you and make you more compassionate. Empathy is intuitive, but is also something you can work on intellectually. Four, exercise. I'm sorry, you pasty, pale, smoking philosophy grads arching your eyebrows into a Cartesian curve as you watch the human movement mob winding their way through them, the miniature traffic cones of their existence.
You are wrong, and they are right. Well, you're half right. You think therefore you are, but also you jog, therefore you sleep, therefore you're not overwhelmed by existential angst.
You can't be can't, and you don't want to be. Play a sport, do yoga, pump iron, run, whatever, but take care of your body. You're gonna need it.
Most of you mob are gonna live to nearly 100, and even the poorest of you will achieve a level of wealth that most humans throughout history could not have dreamed of. And this long, luxurious life ahead of you is going to make you depressed. But don't despair. There is an inverse correlation between depression and exercise.
Do it. Run, my beautiful intellectuals, run. Five, be hard on your opinions. A famous bon mot asserts that opinions are like assholes in that everyone has one.
There is great wisdom in this, but I would add that opinions differ significantly from assholes, and that yours should be constantly and thoroughly examined. They used to do exams in here. It's revenge. We must think critically and not just about the ideas of others.
Be hard on your beliefs. Take them out onto the veranda and hit them with a cricket bat. Be intellectually rigorous. Identify your biases, your prejudices, your privileges.
Most of society's arguments are kept alive by a failure to acknowledge nuance. We tend to generate false dichotomies and then try to argue one point using two entirely different sets of assumptions, like two tennis players trying to win a match by hitting beautifully executed shots from either end of separate tennis courts.
By the way, while I have science and arts graduates in front of me, please don't make the mistake of thinking the arts and sciences are at odds with one another. That is a recent, stupid, and damaging idea. You don't have to be unscientific to make beautiful art, to write beautiful things.
If you need proof, Twain, Douglas Adams, Vonnegut, McEwan, Sagan, Shakespeare, Dickens, for a start. You don't need to be superstitious to be a poet. You don't need to hate GM technology to care about the beauty of the planet.
You don't have to claim a soul to promote compassion. Science is not a body of knowledge, nor a belief system. It is just a term which describes humankind's incremental acquisition of understanding through observation.
Science is awesome. The arts and sciences need to work together to improve how knowledge is communicated. The idea that many Australians, including our new PM and my distant cousin Nick Minchin, believe that the science of anthropogenic global warming is controversial is a powerful indicator of the extent of our failure to communicate. The fact that 30% of the people in this room just bristled is further evidence still.
The fact that that bristling is more to do with politics than science is even more despairing. Six, be a teacher. Please be a teacher.
Teachers are the most admirable and important people in the world. You don't have to do it forever, but if you're in doubt about what to do, be an amazing teacher. Just for your 20s, be a teacher.
Be a primary school teacher, especially if you're a bloke. We need male primary school teachers. Even if you're not a teacher, be a teacher.
Share your ideas. Don't take for granted your education. Rejoice in what you learn, and spray it. Seven, define yourself by what you love.
I found myself doing this thing a bit recently where if someone asks me what sort of music I like, I say, "Well, I don't listen to the radio because pop song lyrics annoy me." Or if someone asks me what food I like, I say, "I think truffle oil is overused and slightly obnoxious."
And I see it all the time online, people whose idea of being part of a subculture is to hate Coldplay or football or feminists or the Liberal Party. We have a tendency to define ourselves in opposition to stuff. As a comedian, I make my living out of it, but try to also express your passion for things you love.
Be demonstrative and generous in your praise of those you admire. Send thank you cards and give standing ovations. Be pro-stuff, not just anti-stuff.
Eight, respect people with less power than you. I have in the past made important decisions about people I work with, agents and producers, big decisions based largely on how they treat the waitstaff in the restaurants we're having the meeting in. I don't care if you're the most powerful cat in the room, I will judge you on how you treat the least powerful, so there.
Nine, finally, don't rush. You don't need to already know what you're gonna do with the rest of your life. I'm not saying sit around smoking cones all day, but also don't panic.
Most people I know who were sure of their career path at 20 are having midlife crises now. I said at the beginning of this ramble, which is already three and a half minutes long, that life is meaningless. It was not a flippant assertion.
I think it's absurd, the idea of seeking meaning in the set of circumstances that happens to exist after 13.8 billion years worth of unguided events. Leave it to humans to think the universe has a purpose for them. However, I am no nihilist.
I'm not even a cynic. I am actually rather romantic, and here's my idea of romance. You will soon be dead.
Life will sometimes seem long and tough, and God, it's tiring, and you will sometimes be happy and sometimes sad, and then you'll be old, and then you'll be dead. There is only one sensible thing to do with this empty existence, and that is fill it. Not fillet, fill it.
And in my opinion, until I change it, life is best filled by learning as much as you can about as much as you can, taking pride in whatever you're doing, having compassion, sharing ideas, running, being enthusiastic. And then there's love and travel and wine and sex and art and kids and giving and mountain climbing, but you know all that stuff already. It's an incredibly exciting thing, this one meaningless life of yours.
Good luck, and thank you for indulging me.
